Turns out that the state of New York is all about asking gay couples "who's the man and who's the woman?" with their online marriage license applications. Other states like Massachusetts and Iowa allow you the option of a "bride/groom" form or a "spouse A/spouse B" form. New York's legislature passed a marriage equality bill, but somebody forgot to update the applications because the state's Marriage Bureaus are ow asking "who's the bride and who's the groom?":
As he got ready for work on Tuesday, Fredy H. Kaplan, a 5-foot-9, 160-pound gay rights activist from the East Village, turned to his 6-foot-1, 250-pound fiancé and made it official. “You’re going to be the bride,” he said.Fortunately, it appears that the marriage license applications have since been updated to identify "Bride/Groom/Spouse A" and "Bride/Groom/Spouse B". But some GLBT couples are still fuming that their local Marriage Bureau seemed to be trying to figure out who was the top and who was the bottom in these new marital relationships. Which is really rude.
Mr. Kaplan had spent the morning at his computer, applying online for a marriage license, because Tuesday was the first day that New York City allowed same-sex couples to initiate the process for getting married. But he stumbled on an unexpected roadblock: The city clerk’s online forms offered only the choice of “bride” and “groom.” Mr. Kaplan, 50, a vice president of the Stonewall Democrats, and his partner of six years, Anthony Cipriano, 43, were puzzled, but also amused.
“He said, ‘You’re making me the bride?’ ” Mr. Kaplan recalled. “It was confusing on many levels.”
By the way, I found the best response to the "who's the man?//who's the woman?" question. Check this out:
Asking who's the "man" and who's the "woman" in a gay relationship is like going to a Chinese restaurant and asking which chopstick is the fork.