Sunday, August 21, 2011

Books to Avoid: "The Lisa Miller Story: Only One Mommy"

It's been a while since I wrote anything about the sad child custody dispute between Lisa Miller and Janet Jenkins.  (Here, Here, and Here)  They were in a relationship for a while.  Lisa got pregnant and they entered into a civil union in Vermont.  They raised the child together for a year or so.  They eventually broke up, but maintained joint custody and Jenkins, the non-biological mother, financially supported their child.  Miller, the biological mother, eventually moved from Vermont (one of the more gay-friendly states in our nation) to Virginia (one of the most gay-unfriendly states in our nation).  She renounced her lesbianism, joined an extremely conservative Christian church, sought out the legal support of the Christian law firm Liberty Counsel, and attempted to write Jenkins out of their lives using Virginia's anti-gay laws and unfounded accusations of abuse.

The child custody case bounced back and forth between Virginia's and Vermont's courts.  The courts got tired of Miller not following through with court-ordered visitations and eventually switched primary custody of the child from Miller to Jenkins.  Then Miller and the child disappeared.  They had fled the country, reportedly with the assistance of church members and friends & family of church members.  They are supposedly somewhere in Central or South America right now.   Miller's legal team at Liberty Council continues to assert that they have had nothing to do with her disappearance.  Then again, Miller reportedly has spent some of her time on the run living in a home owned by the father of a Libety Counsel employee.  It should also be pointed out that Liberty Law School supposedly rewards students with better grades when they choose "God's law" over "man's law".

Anyway, one of her legal team, Rena M. Lindevaldsen, just released a book called "Only One Mommy: A Woman's Battle for Her Life, Her Daughter, and Her Freedom: The Lisa Miller Story":
Have you ever wondered... "What can I do to help those involved in homosexuality?" "How extensive is the culture war over marriage and family?" "What are they exposing our children to in schools?" Or, perhaps... "Why should I even care?" This book answers those questions and more! Only One Mommy exposes the truth about the homosexual rights movement and its destructive consequences. Written from the vantage point of Lisa Miller's seven-year custody battle for her biological child against her former same-sex partner, Only One Mommy offers a first-hand account of how people are lured into believing that they are born "gay" and cannot change. As a result of that belief, they make life choices that have devastating consequences for our children, families, and freedoms. This book offers truth to those struggling with homosexuality, encourages churches to minister to those caught in the lifestyle, and stirs freedom-loving Americans to get involved in the culture war that is raging all around them. "Rena Lindevaldsen is a leading legal expert in the battle to defend traditional family and marriage. Written from the front lines of the cultural battle, Only One Mommy offers a rare glimpse into a woman's personal struggle with same-sex attractions and the seven-year legal struggle to keep custody of her biological daughter..." Rena has written this book based on her first- hand experience as Lisa Miller's attorney, as well as on her defense of traditional marriage and family in courts throughout the Nation.
Miller went out of her way to create a family with Jenkins and then, when it was no longer convenient for her, jumped into the most nearby anti-gay state she could find in order to snip Jenkins out of her life and their daughter's life.  She has fought every attempt at shared custody since then and has now defied a court-ordered custody switch and fled the country.  Now her attorney is trying to capitolize off her client's child custody case and kidnapping. 

The Lisa Millers of the world need to learn an important lesson: If you bring a child into the world and/or into your life with another parent and then you break up, suck it up.  It is no longer about you.  You owe it to your child to do everything in your power to minimize the harm of your break-up on him/her.  Lisa Miller created a child-custody battle and has thrown her daughter into the spotlight for seven years.  She and her daughter are now international fugitives.  Do not purchase this book.  If you really feel the need to read it, see if you can get a free copy from the library.  Do not use your money to tacitly support unethcial and illegal behavior.

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

I just heard of this book about 5 minutes ago, and in 5 minutes of internet searching read that Jenkins was abusive. Regardless of the homosexual issue - if I was a parent, I would do everything in my power to get my child away from abuse.

Jon said...

Did you also read that those allegations were also found to be unfounded?

Anonymous said...

Absolutely disgusting. I hope Lisa Miller will be found, jailed, and that her daughter will remain in the custody of her former partner Janet Jenkins. What a vile, despicable woman. And what a childish act to do.

Jesus Son Of God Have Mercy On Me a Sinner said...

Do some googling and you will find that independant social workers toldthe custody judge that Isabella [in their opinon] should stay with Lisa . Isabella had not seen Jenkins for over four years, since before she was two . After a few visists she returned home suicidal, bed wetting, suffered nightmares, and was self abusing in the open . Jenkins had got into the bath with her . Can you imagine a non bio dad doing the same , and what your reaction would be to the same case .

Jon said...

They haven't seen each other because they've been kept apart by Miller. Regarding the social worker's statements, did the judges preciding over the case over the years find them believable?

Anonymous said...

You are a sad person in need of of Jesus.I would suggest you open the Bible and read it.

Jon said...

Bless you too, Anonymous.

Anonymous said...

Thanking God that Miller got herself and her child out of that sick relationship.

Anonymous said...

I just learned of this case. I guess that is because I spend most of my time in Canada. It is heartbreaking to me.

I also found a lot of mention of the abuse suffered by the little girl at the hands of her mother (Janet Jenkins) floating around the web. One website even provided the actual testimony of the social worker, family friend, and law guardian (or attorney for the child, I forget how you call it in the US). I see why the judge disregarded these statements completely- well except for the testimony of the law guardian. The words of the law guardian have simply been twisted or misunderstood by supporters of the other mother (Lisa Miller). Simply put, it is a the job of the law guardian to present the perspective of the child to the court and the law guardian did just that by mentioning that the child considers Lisa Miller to be her only true mother and Virginia to be her home and therefore would be very upset if forced to instead live with Ms. Jenkins in Vermont.

However, it is clear to me (and apparently the court as well) that the child feels this way because Ms. Miller has done whatever she can to alienate the child from Ms. Jenkins.

In Canada a woman who behaved quite similarly to Ms. Miller (filling her daughters' heads with false information about their father, preventing the father from having any contact with his daughters, disregarding multiple court orders, etc) actually lost custody of her daughters despite the fact that the daughters vehemently opposed the idea of living with their dad just as the child in this case apparently now does. The court disregarded the girls wishes in the Canada case because it was so clear that they had essentially been brainwashed by their mother to fear their father and his "abusive" ways. I can only hope that the Jenkins/Miller case will one day reach a similar conclusion. I don't know how Lisa Miller can consider herself a mother at all. What kind of mother does that to their kid?

I doubt Janet Jenkins googles herself and will ever read this but if she ever does I hope she knows that there are good people- good Christian people like myself and not like her former wife- who are praying for an end to her suffering and the return of her daughter to her. May they finally get a chance to have a long, happy, peaceful life together- Both Ms. Jenkins and her daughter certainly deserve it.

Anonymous said...

So Glad for Lisa Miller to leave that abusive mess behind. She and Isabella will be blessed in the end to have made that God honoring choice. Praise to our God who reigns over all!

Jaryn Crowdus said...

Really people? There are two sides to every story!
REGARDLESS of your beliefs... There is a child involved. Lisa Miller can not just change the rules to suit her now! Suck it up cup cake... A judge obviously found Janet Jenkins fit enough to reverse custody.
Sounds like Lisa needs to grow up and be a responsible adult and follow through with what she started 10 yrs ago

snapper said...

Just because someone makes it legal, does not make it RIGHT. This lady that thinks she is a "man" is going to have to give in account one day. Meantime Lisa and her daughter have a lot of folks praying for them.

Jon said...

Who thinks she's a man?