One of their latest polls indicated that an even 50% of my fellow Iowans would vote for a constitutional amendment to ban gay and lesbian people from marrying. People over 65 really hate gay families. 62% of them would vote for a constitutional ban on our families, which sucks 'cuz Iowa has a high percentage of old people in it. 53% of Independents would vote to constitutionally outlaw the marriages of gay and lesbian people vs. 24% of Democratic votes. Only 18% of Republican voters would vote against a constitutional ban on gay and lesbian marriages.
To add a little salt to the would, 48% of Iowans think that my marriage should be "illegal" versus 41% who think that it should remain legal. 67% of voters support "some form of legal recognition for gay and lesbian couples. 30% of those people think we should be happy with civil unions without really considering that the constitutional amendment that the state GOP is trying to pass would also outlaw civil unions and domestic partnerships. 29% of Iowans think that gay and lesbian couples should remain complete legal strangers.
I'm always left wishing that pollsters would ask people what we should do with the marriages that already exist between gay and lesbian couples here in Iowa. Do my neighbors want my family involuntarily neutered? After all, many of them believe that it's a farce. Should existing gay marriages get grandfathered in to a post-constitutionally banned Iowa?
Part of the reason I write about my family is to show people that gay families do indeed exist here in Iowa and we're mostly pretty normal (except when we're writing about reality TV and zombies and urban chickens and real life super heroes). Granted, I don't always write about my family as much as I could and maybe I should. I just don't know that it does any good. Sometimes I just feel like I'm treading water and waiting for the sharks to separate us from each other.
Iowa has been a marriage equality state for nearly three years. Gay and lesbian couples have been getting married here throughout that time. We live here. We work here. We worship here. We raise our families here. We play here. And still half of the state wants to wipe out our families. Help me find the silver lining. Please.