Sunday, November 13, 2011

The 5 People You Meet as a Gay Dad

A week ago, blogger Jerry Mahoney wrote a great blog article called The 5 People You Meet as a Gay Dad.  He and his partner are surrogate dads.  In this article, he lumped together everyone that he runs into when he's out with his family into five predictable categories:  1. Your New BFF (Reaction: Unbridled enthusiasm); 2. Jaded Allies (Reaction: Feigned indifference); 3. Closet Homophobes (Reaction: Cordial avoidance); 4. The Head Scratchers (Reaction: Utter confusion); and 5. The Moral Crusaders (Reaction: Salvation mode).  Check out the article for more detailed descriptions. 

For the most part, Mahoney's categories are pretty spot-on.  Of course, there are exceptions and other types of reactions and commenters definitely wanted to let Mahoney know that.  I think people took this list a bit too seriously, but that's just me.

But my favorite commenters were those who complained about being lumped (by themselves, mind you) into the Moral Crusader category.  Many of them wanted to be Moral Crusaders without being "one of those" Moral Crusaders.  Mahoney responded in another post that he doesn't really care and would prefer that they transform themselves into Closet Homophobes.  Of course, there was one particular "Moral Crusader" responder who chose not to self-classify.  In two comments, she managed to diss Mahoney's partner and family and advocated against the continued existence of Mahoney's family (citing Biblical verses, of course).

Anyway, check it out.  It's a fun read.


Jerry said...

Hi Jon! Thanks for the link. Glad you liked the post. I was definitely overwhelmed by all those comments and not surprised a moral crusader or two showed up. It's much easier for them to speak up from behind the veil of anonymity the internet provides. Thankfully, as I said, most of them are far too polite - or scared - to say those things in public. Hopefully, that's been your experience as well.

Jon said...

No prob about the link!

It's been my experience, too, that those I see in real life are either supporting or politely silent. It helps when they see kids with us and note that they're not totally warped. Then again, their still kids so warpiness is bound to occur.

Thanks for the link, Jerry, and I look forward to future blog posts! -Jon