Saturday, January 7, 2012

Santorum: It's Better to Have an Imprisoned Father than Two Gay Mothers

Rick Santorum continues to rail against gay and lesbian families in New Hamphire.  Most likely, he's really not speaking to the people of New Hampshire, the majority of whom support gay people and our families.  Instead, he's speaking to the his supporters down in South Carolina who aren't quite so supportive of us.  Check out his latest from yesterday:
For the second time in as many days, Rick Santorum waded into the issue of gay marriage, suggesting it was so important for children to have both a father and mother that an imprisoned father was preferable to a same-sex parent.

Citing the work of one anti-poverty expert, Santorum said, "He found that even fathers in jail who had abandoned their kids were still better than no father at all to have in their children's lives."

Allowing gays to marry and raise children, Santorum said, amounts to "robbing children of something they need, they deserve, they have a right to. You may rationalize that that isn't true, but in your own life and in your own heart, you know it's true."

At a private boarding school Friday, the Republican presidential candidate's voice grew emotional as he argued that only a man and woman should be able to marry. "Marriage is not a right," Santorum said. "It's a privilege that is given to society by society for a reason.... We want to encourage what is the best for children."

The audience, half students and half local residents, reacted with snorts and applause. The students at Dublin School, which runs from ninth through 12th grade, were primed for Santorum's visit, said headmaster Brad Bates. He said three students in the audience had gay parents, though they were not among those who asked about the topic.
Mindful that I'm walking a bit on egg shells here given that the birth father of one my sons has spent most of my son's life in prison, but I'm calling bull.  Do you really believe that the three students sitting in the same room listening to Santorum's audience would be better off if they had one imprisoned parent versus two parents of the same sex?

I know many gay moms.  A few are so-so parents, but most of them are great.  Most of their kids are doing great.  It's insulting to them and their kids, not to mention gay dads like myself who are there for our own kids day in and day out, to imply that our kids would be better off "abandoned" by one birth parent instead of in their intact two-parent homes.

The children of gay parents are not robbed of anything.  They have parents who love them and care for them and discipline them and take them to sports events and play with them and nurture them and prepare them for adulthood like most good parents do for their kids.  I would argue instead that Santorum is attempting to rob gay families -- children like those three students who were there listening to him at Dublin School -- of our respect and dignity.  Parenting children is difficult enough without political peeves like Rick Santorum mucking up the atmosphere with his false and insulting insinuations about us.

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