Michael Griffin says he emailed the principal of Holy Ghost Prep earlier in the week saying he may be late Friday, that he was applying for a marriage license. After an in-service day he says he was called into the office of School President Father James McCloskey, along with Principal Jeffrey Danilak.I feel bad for the guy, but I can't help but wonder why he didn't think it would happen. We read in the news all the time about gay and lesbian teachers who are regularly fired from private religious schools for getting married. Heck, we read too often about kids who are expelled from private religious schools for having gay parents. Why is it that each of these gay and lesbian teachers act surprised when their bosses toe the line with them?
Griffin explains, "He said, 'It's not really a secret here that you're gay.' I said, 'Correct.' He said, 'I assume this is a same sex marriage.' 'Yes.' He said if I go through with it, he had no choice but to terminate my position."
In tears, he left. His over a decade-long tenure at Holy Ghost was over.
"I really didn't think that it would happen. At our school we talk about it's a community our motto is 'One heart, one mind.'"
I see this on the Gay Christian Network a lot, too. Folks who remain deeply closeted for years because they know they will get cut off from everyone who means anything to them if they come out as LGBT. They will lose their pastoral position or they will lose their teaching position or they will be kicked out of their college or they won't be able to sing with their choir anymore or they will lose their family. They spill their everything into those closeted professional and personal relationships -- hoping that others will be kind of them if they reach out for support, but knowing that most likely they will lose everything.
I feel bad for Griffin and his fiancé Vincent Giannetto. I hope they have a wonderful wedding and I hope Griffin finds a new job quickly. But I also hope he stays away from religious education in order to avoid future scenarios like this.