Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Terry Meeuwsen of "700 Club" Inteviews the Latest Ex-Gay, Kegan Wesley

Terry Meeuwsen of CBN's "700 Club" did a nearly 10 minute segment with some ex-gay Christian speaker named Kegan Wesley. Wesley was raped as a child by several men. He then went several years without reporting this incident or seeking any help. He became a drug addict and struggled with same-sex attractions. He then went to a Christian concert in his late teens and became a born again Christian.

Meeuwsen really pushed him a lot about his transformation and exit from the "gay lifestyle." Example...
Meeuwsen: You have gone through all kinds of growing and changing and being loved by God and identity-writing within your heart and your mind. Do you still struggle with same-sex attraction today?

Wesley: Temptation... You can't escape. Jesus had temptation. So temptation comes, but it's not the temptation that defines me. It's what I do with it that defines me.

Meeuwsen: So what do you do with it? How did you turn that car for yourself around and head in the other direction? 

Wesley: I'm a Romans 12:2 kind of dude. I don't conform to this world, but I'm transformed by renewing my mind so that I can prove the will of God that which is perfect, good, and exceptable. And I just want to be more like Jesus and less like myself. And I think every human wants to. 

Meeuwsen: What do you say to people who are in the gay lifestyle who say, "I was just born this way"? Because you talk a lot about the fact that we have the power of choice in our lives. So if I say to you, "I'm born this way," then suddenly there's nothing I can do about it. I'm sort of a victim of my circumstance. What do you say to people who say that?

Wesley: Well, we all are born some way. And we're definitely born into sin, which is why we have to be saved. And be born again. So Jesus just comes and says "I set before you life and I've set before you death," but with passion he says "I pray that you would choose life." Love is a choice. And I decided with my love to choose Jesus.. And what happened is that I fell so much in love with him and out of love with the life I was living.

Meeuwsen: All of it? Because sometimes we separate out the whole homosexual experience from every other sin on the planet, but it's all a stench before the nostril of God.
When asked how to respond to Christian parents who have kids who come out as gay, Wesley advises them to "trust the Lord," pray for them, and expect that they will eventually change.

Meeuwsen praised Kegan Wesley for his story, transformation, and unique testimony. But honestly, it's nothing new. He responds with the same vague responses that conservative Christians expect (outside of outright rejection) to hear when talking about LGBT people.

Meanwhile, Wesley still struggles with "same-sex attraction." He has to mentally push back on his gay feelings on a regular basis. And he refuses to define himself by his sin, but instead through his connection to Christ.

And don't get me going on the over-emphasis on his former gay identity versus his long history of drug and alcohol abuse and severe (and untreated) childhood sexual trauma. Frankly, I am way over ex-gay speakers who hawk their stories of substance abuse and childhood trauma and then generalize their story for all gay people.

And trust me... These stories don't change. Just the faces. I anticipate that Kegan Wesley's story will follow the typical trajectory of all young ex-gay spokespeople who get experience trauma, seek help through religion, tell the Church that they're messed up because they're gay, and then they will come out after years of dating isolation.

I could be wrong, but these patterns don't often change.

You can watch the whole segment here.

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